![]() ![]() Before you consider what you can choose to do about clicky environments ask yourself if you need to actually be a part of them? Sometimes you can choose to move on and be with other people and sometimes you’ve no choice but to find a way through these environments. It could also be that because they are on “the inside” and feel comfortable it doesn’t bother them, whatever the reason it is not imagined and if it is making you feel a certain way what can you do about it?Ĭhoice – do you have a choice to be there? Being sensitive to these things can be a good thing, so accept that you have an ability to care about other people’s feelings in any environment. Therefore firstly, accept that just because you notice the “atmosphere” some will not. Some people can be oblivious to the way people are feeling and therefore unable to alter the way they communicate and act or encourage others to either. It’s not their fault – Not everyone notices clicky environments. Here are my top tips for dealing with clicky environments ![]() The issue can arise when some of the group become well connected or are natural communicators and others are not. It is traditionally known as norming, storming and performing in training the steps you take a group through to successfully work together. You aim to get them to behave as a group, to share confidently and comfortably, knowing their views are as valid as anyone else’s. It is also very similar to when you are training a group of people. We walk into a room and its natural to want to feel wanted and liked. It dates back to first civilisations that we chose to be together. This person looked intrigued and I explained how as humans we need to feel connected and respected. It can be damaging to businesses, organisation and groups in many ways.) (Clicky is when some people seem to have “in jokes” and seem not to notice the bemused looks on other people’s faces as they feel on the outside and feel a little ousted from the inner workings of the group. I smiled to put their mind at rest that their thoughts were safe with me and added that having hosted thousands of events and worked with thousands of teams it can be hard to stop people from becoming a bit clicky. They were worried they’d be accused of being rude or disrespectful to the organsiation or of being a gossip. People I don’t know have a habit of sharing their real feelings and intimate thoughts with me, perhaps because one of the skills I’m lucky to possess as a coach is that people feel like “they’ve known me for years.” You could tell this was the case on this occasion because the person I was talking to looked shocked that they’d basically admitted their true feelings on this organisation to what was for all intense purposes a complete stranger! The look of horror on their face summed it up. I attended a business-focused event and was having a great time when someone next to me whom I’d been chatting to for a little while admitted that it was “rather a clicky group”. In a room full of people you can just as easily feel totally alone or totally loved – every one can have an impact on that. ![]()
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